“I have died everyday waiting for you Darling don’t be afraid I have loved you For a thousand years I love you for a thousand more.”
TURN YOUR BREAK-UP INTO A STEP-UP!
We all had at least one tough breakup, and if not, then you will. It’s always tough to start over from scratch. Even more than that, some people take a very long time to heal. I’ve come to realize that there is some good in a breakup, but it’s up to you to see the glass half-full instead of half-empty.
Quick facts about a break-up;
– If you lost it, then it wasn’t real love. Real love doesn’t leave; it lasts while getting stronger in the process.
– If you lost it, then that means there is something better out there for you.
– If you refuse to feel the pain of it, you will never be able to heal from it.
So now the question becomes, ‘how do I get over the break-up?’
1.) You have to change the way you view it. Instead of seeing the person as a lifetime partner you lost, see them as a seasonal partner who ran their course and taught you some valuable lessons about life and love.
2.) Identify where you are in your life and where you would like to be.
3.) Then set new goals for yourself, make a plan of action and begin the execution of your plan.
4.) While executing your plan, begin studying REAL LOVE and healthy relationships. Identify where your last relationship went wrong so that you don’t repeat the same mistakes.
5.) Love yourself (choose happiness no matter your circumstance or situation).
6.) Reopen your heart for love. You don’t have to go searching for love, but work on becoming the type of person who you would want to love and then love will find you.
7.) Go into your next relationship wiser, stronger, and free of any baggage.
Taking these steps in overcoming a breakup will help you tremendously. We live and we learn. Don’t live life looking through the rear view mirror because things will always seem closer than they really are. Look forward on your journey. Trust me when I tell you that there are much bigger and better things to come!
ABSENCE MAKES THE HEART GROW FONDER
Being in a relationship is not always easy. It takes work to keep your love growing and flourishing. So if you’ve ever been in a long distance relationship, you know that this is even truer. I’m not gonna lie—it can be really difficult to sustain a long distance relationship. It’s easier to weather the storm when you know it’s a temporary separation. But what do you do when you want to maintain your relationship from afar?
Make sure to define the terms of your relationship. Are you allowed to see other people? Is the relationship going to remain casual while you’re apart? It’s best to know these types of things before you’re separated.
Also, know that if you want to sustain this relationship in the long run, one of you is going to have to move. You might hold off of this conversation until you’re both sure that the relationship is truly going to survive the test of time (and miles).
Be thoughtful while you’re apart. Make sure you still surprise him or her with loving gestures. Stay connected with frequent phone conversations. And, in order to actually see each other while apart, get a Skype account so you can speak face-to-face. Don’t rely too heavily on email because it’s really difficult to get tone and inflection just right.
If you’re in a relationship that you want to keep but live thousands of miles apart, it’s important that you know it will definitely take a lot of work, but remember that love is always worth the effort!
